People have struggles because we live in a world of good versus evil. Sexism creates a struggle for women wanting to advance in male dominated systems. Racism creates a struggle for minorities wanting to receive equal treatment at work, in the housing market and in the legal system. Well the survivor’s essential struggle is the desire to move forward through life today only to be stopped by the pain of yesterday. Your greatest struggle is not to let the abuse dominate your life today – or to recreate the abuse over and over again in relationships, with your own children, at work and even in your relationship with God.
Read the following legend of Two Wolves:
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, “Let me tell you a story.
I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do.
But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.” He continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.
But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing.
Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.”
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one wins, Grandfather?”
The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”
Survivor Today Magazine wants to feed your spirit what it needs to grow strong in love. Like the child in the story above an injustice was done to you – the sexual abuse. This abuse can cause a great deal of anger inside that lingers and grows. But this anger does nothing to move you forward – it only holds you back. But love and peace will not let you fail. The struggle is to allow the light inside lead you through – and that light is Christ who is the light of this world.
The Story of Two Wolves was taken from the following site: