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Top Three Questions Every Survivor Wants Answered

Was the abuse my fault? No. Abused children can never be at fault for the actions of another. In contrast, children to a great extent, rely on adults to protect, love and teach them and to provide for them. Many Survivors think that because they didn’t tell another adult when the abuse was actually happening…

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Brother – A Poem from One Survivor to Another

Brother, we were both betrayed. We lost our childhood quickly. Now our lives are disarrayed, twisted, torn and sickly. Now middle aged and still we’re lost, not knowing where to turn. Surely we have paid the cost, the bitter sting, the burn. Drinking, drugs and therapy, denial and delusion. Some for you and some for…

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But What Does He Say About You?

Words can hurt. Especially when spoken by a loved one. But even when they are spoken by a classmate, co worker or neighbor they tend to sting – leaving us bewildered and wondering why do we place so much emphasis on what has been said by someone that even we have not deemed to be…

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I Need You to SURVIVE!

Its true that we live in a world where bad things can happen and so therefore fair for us to take reasonable precautions to protect  ourselves from this danger.  Its what we call the will to survive and its inherent in all of us. We all want to live and defend ourselves from what we…

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Spotlight on a Phenomenal Survivor: Donne Hedgepeth

On November 9, 2013 The Women’s Fellowship Ministry at The Body of Christ Church in Raleigh hosted the Fall 2013 Purpose Driven Women Tour presented by EWATE (Empowered Women Accountable To Each Other). This is a wonderful display of women from all backgrounds coming together to support and encourage one another. Attendees witnessed and engaged in inspiring…

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My Story – Living with PTSD

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is a condition that I have lived with all of my adult life. For many years, although I had the symptoms, I went undiagnosed and therefore I didn’t receive treatment. Since the day I arrived into this world, I’ve been under a tremendous amount of stress and am always dealing with…

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God Can Heal a Broken Heart

Several weeks ago I shared my story of heart break from having a family torn apart by abuse in an article entitled “How I Survived Mother’s Day – and Escaped Heart Break on Father’s Day”. I explained that the devastating aftermath of CSA had left my mother and I estranged and that Mother’s Day was always painful…

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Prayer for Survivors

The first time in my adult life that I knew I would be okay came in church when I was nineteen years old. Haunted not only by the memories of abuse, but also the false assertions of several authority figures that “abused children grow up to abuse,” I was paralyzed emotionally. Though I had never…

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Love Yourself First

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I realize that there are many challenges to overcome along life’s path. Growing up, and even into adulthood, I remember walking around with the feeling that, “everybody knew.” I thought they could tell just by looking at me, that I was somehow, damaged and that it was visible to all. As…

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Be a Happiness Advocate

Life can be both difficult and busy. As adults, we have responsibilities: jobs, chores, children to take care of and the list goes on and on. On top of all of that, we have to take care of ourselves – and that can be an enormously huge task. Why? Because we often put ourselves on…